It always really irritates me when girls say that they hate other girls. They never seem to have a real argument as to why they hate girls, they just do. The female species is complicated enough, but I find this to be one of their more confusing qualities. I wish that someone could present a rational argument as to why females hate other females.
Sometimes I wonder if it’s just girls doing what they’re expected to do. Since the beginning of time, women have claimed that they hate other women, so perhaps nowadays women just follow suit. Still, this doesn’t seem likely.
I don’t understand why females feel so threatened by other females, either. Just because I talk to another girl does not mean I’m cheating on you. I’m having a conversation. I’m not leaving you for someone less dramatic, although the thought has crossed my mind. There is no need to have a problem with every girl that talks to your boyfriend. Chances are they’re just talking. If they are having a little fling behind your back, shouldn’t you be angry with HIM?
This shouldn’t upset me, but it does. Not that I want to be in a fight with you, but if I’m cheating on you, why are you mad at her? Sure, it shouldn’t be going down in the first place, but if it is, maybe you should take a second to think about who’s really at fault here. She’s not the one cheating on you. I am. Perhaps you should think about who your real enemy is. I know I’ll regret saying that.
Women are a majority in this country. So by saying that you “hate girls” you are saying that you hate over half the population in this country. I think that’s a little bit questionable. That much hatred kind of makes you look like a bad person. Just saying. Also, it should be noted that you yourself are a girl. So by saying you hate girls, you are technically saying that you hate yourself. If that’s the case, you may want to talk to someone. Self loathing is never healthy.
There have been countless occasions when I have introduced a girl to another girl. Usually this results in a fake greeting, followed by rude comments exchanged after the meeting. I simply thought we could all co-exist together. I didn’t know this would be such a problem. You seem perfectly fine talking to me. What seems to be the issue with my female friend? Oh, she’s a girl. My mistake, I should never have forced such satanic rituals on you.
“I hate girls.” It is a statement made far too frequently. But I’ve yet to see someone explain just why they do. Want my opinion? Hate those who wrong you. But don’t hate someone based on their gender. I can guarantee you there’s someone out there worth hating more. And who knows what their gender is? Better yet, who cares?
I agree. As a girl, I can say it seems sometimes girls find it easier to blame other girls than their significant others. By saying it's the girls' faults, they get rid of the blame for their boyfriends, fiances and husbands. I've had friends blame other girls for their boyfriends' infidelities. Girls simply don't trust other girls because they know how they can be. It should be a more general statement, because guys can be at fault too. It should be more able the people themselves than their genders.
ReplyDeleteAllow me to propose an answer: jealousy, competition for attention, and distrust in general makes girls say they "Hate girls." Girls compete for attention by trying to dress better than whoever they are with, even if it is a good friend, and will see other girls that are prettier than them as a threat. This is just because secretly every girl is wrestling with a thousand insecurities that they need to deal with in a healthier way. So when girls say they "hate girls" what they may be really saying is that they don't feel that they measure up to other girls who are prettier, smarter, or more interesting than they are.
ReplyDeleteGirls who blame the other girl when their boyfriend cheats are just in denial. They don't want to believe anything bad about "the love of their life" and shift blame to the other girl, thinking she must have tricked him into it. If they are insecure in themselves, many girls place their security in their boyfriends instead. When he cheats, then, they cannot let their wall of confidence in him be destroyed.
I agree with dancer89, too, that guys can have the same hang-ups in a different way, feeling threatened by other guys. As I am not a guy, I really can't say more than that.
If a snake bites you once and it's not venomous, you probably won't develop a fear for them. So the next time you see a snake, you think nothing of it, until it bites you with venomous fangs and you're forced to agonizingly suck out the poison. After that, you're probably going to be very well aware of snakes. Well, welcome to the wonderful world of women.
ReplyDeleteOkay, it takes two to tango, vertically or horizontally so both people involved in the infidelity are at fault. Of course she's going to be irate with you; she trusted you, maybe even loved you, and you threw it in her face. The girl you cheated with (provided your now ex girlfriend doesn't know her) didn't really do wrong by her. Many times, the girl being cheated with is completely oblivious to the fact that she's the other woman.
There aren't many people who haven't been screwed over by someone, regardless of sex. A friend told me once, that women have this subconscious desire to break up happy couples. I proceeded to smack the ignorance out of him as I tried to explain that women tend to be attracted towards taken men. Let's face it, commitment is sexy. Who doesn't want a man who's able to be with you and only you? This theory piled onto past hurt and countless insecurities will lead to the women hating other women argument.